We express anger in number of situations in our daily life we will be subjected to anger almost in an automated way .
viewing through number of our wrong belief systems we often justify our anger and also think it as our strength.
Let us explore the main reason for getting anger.
We always wish every situation to be according to us ,when the scene deviates a little bit from our expectations we are subjected to anger .
This the main reason why maximum number of people gets anger
SETTING AN IMAGE IN THE MIND
Every body sets an image in the mind according to that image people set some parameters about the things that going to happen to them,about the behaviour of the people with them ,about the situations which come across in the life..
HOW DOES AN ANGER GENERATE
The image set in the mind will be fully loaded with perfectly written script for the forth coming scene and it will be written according to their definition of wright.
They faces the situation with pre installed image in the inner world of mind.
But when the outer world image do not match with image in the mind , irritation triggers in the mind and converts in to anger when the irritation intensifies.
LOSS OF FLEXIBILITY
It is a clear sign which says that the person who gets disturbed in this way do not have flexibility to manage the real image out side with the image in the mind.
These persons do not agree with the reality they stick back to the image in the mind.
This creats lot of disturbance in the mind and easily triggers anger.
REASONS FOR MISMATCHING OF IMAGES
There might be many reasons why the images are mismatched even after perfect exercise .
The behaviour of the opposite person might not be the same as you expected because ,he might have been brought up in different sanskaars.
We may not get expected out put in a work from a person because he may be less efficient.
TIME FOR DEVELOPMENT OF AN IMAGE
When you even meet a stranger you will develop a image in the mind Immediately.
Develolment of the image in the mind takes only fractions of seconds.
WHAT TO DO WHEN AN IMAGE IS MISMATCHED
So if the image mismatches you must be strong enough to adjust the gap between interior and exterior images.
Every one has their own power of thinking ,they have their own style of taking decisions.
Every one has their own definitions for wright and wrong.
The problem arises in the fixing of the things.when you fix the things you looses the flexibility and results in the disturbance.
TRYING TO CONTROL PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS
When ever you come across a situation which triggers anger in you and passes away.you still remain and struggle to control and change the situation which has been passed away inner conflict goes on through out the day spoiling other situations.
We have to remember that it is impossible to control a situation.
We have to remember that it is impossible to control the persons.
Through out the day we are trying to control the situations and we are trying to control the persons which is impossible.
WHAT TO DO
The main thing you have to remember is do not try to change the people and do not try to correct them but you can give them suggestions.
If you try to correct people and if you try to change them there develops a inner conflict and goes on through out the day.
At every step of life you remain complaining on others actions which creates lot of disturbance in the mind.
CHECK THREE CONFLICTS
Check out the three main conflicts.
Conflict with the past ( not accepting the past )
Conflict with the people (while trying to change them.)
and the inner conflict.
⏩WHAT IS THE INNER CONFLICT⏪
Out of the habit of changing the people and situations we constantly try to change the people at every step of life and we constantly try to change the situations.
Being impossible to change people and situations we fail constantly in every step of life.
This leads to severe frustration and bursts out in the form of anger which comprises of enormous amount of negative energy.
Most of the time in a day we will be anger on the self because of building up of the guilty feeling.
We feel guilty on ourself because of getting anger,because of lot of disharmony which goes on inside. Because doing faults and because of getting failed in controlling people and situations
We suppress forcibly which is going on inside and we shout at the world saying loudly that you are responsible for every thing mess happening in my life.
⏩HOW TO COME OUT OF IT⏪
Whenever you are getting angry just alert the consciousness and be aware.Then ask few questions to yourself.
Who is going to suffer because of my anger.Remember anger is unhealthy and leads to dreadful diseases
Then ask one more question very strongly saying how long anger.
Every hour take out a minute and check the state of mind.Check and acknowledge any small patches of irritations.clean them away immediately.Because anger generates out of the small packages of irritations.
⏩GOLDEN RULE⏪
Do not try to change the situations
You have to take it granted that the situation which you are facing now is the perfect situation generated by the karma because of your previous actions.
It is almost your choice.It is the best option you have choosed.It can not be otherwise.You can not change it what you can do is you can try for the betterment of next situation and that can be done perfectly when you are stable in present situation and accept it whole heartedly
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