Anger Doesnot Work

 

Every one of us know very well that the face with full of smiles is very essential in day to day life to maintain good relationships.and to lead a happy and healthy life

But unfortunately smiles are not  so deeper from  the heart and hearts are completely filled with anger ,hatred grudge and other different negative emotions.
We know that negative emotions specially anger is not good for health.
Anger doesnot work is the golden rule in human psychology.
So what to do to reduce the anger.
From the previous post it is confirm that the anger is our own creation.
Then it is in our hands to reduce the anger.
Now let us see with some examples what is initial emotion which leads to anger.

Example number 1 : Just imagine that you are  searching for something on the web and the pages are loading very slowly.Then what will be your reaction.
You might have been came across this situation number of times just recall what was your state of mind at that time.
Very simple you might have got small tremors of irritation.
Example number 2:Imagine you are in a serious meeting and suddenly a mobile rings with a louder ring tone.Then what happens, again a small irritation starts.  
                                                              
   ⏩IRRITATION⏪

Irritation is caused in number of situations in our daily life.Maximum of these are very silly situations.
We can come to a conclusion that we get irritated even for small and silly things
This irritation  triggers anger.
Now how to come out of it.
The golden rule that we have to follow here is ..........
every situation has its own speed and its  own style.
Do not try to change it .
Do not try to change the people even.
World is not going to move according to you .
Just accept and take it as it is.
Acceptance does not mean that you are encouraging the wrong situation or the person who has done the wrong thing. Acceptance does not break the relationship and gives a chance to rectify the wrong .
If you reject you can do nothing.there is no chance of changing the person.
you are going to break the relationship there itself.
If you reject you will get irritated that triggers the anger which spoils the health.
Irritation is the first and foremost most  thing which is responsible for anger in lots of cases in our daily life.
Whenever a small sort of irritation takes birth in you just catch it and finIsh it then and there itself.
Next thing which causes anger is grudge upon others.
When  some body has done wrong to us.
We start holding grudge interiorly upon him.
We always spend time in thinking or expecting some deadly thing happens to him
All the time we subject our self to intense pressure.
 The opposite person may or may not be wrong we are not going to judge the person. but he has done his work according to him he did not hurt you.
you are hurting your self because the person was not according to you.
In the same way hatred is another one which leads to anger.

    ⏩AWARENESS⏪
Some beautiful tips to reduce anger.
First one is awareness,be aware of the negative emotion. when starts in you catch it immediately.
Acknowledge it, that means accept that there is irritation going on in you.
Then accept that you are responsible for the irritation and you can control it.That means you can switch it off right now.
Then start ascending from irritation.
Get detached from the negative  emotion.Develop.a simple idea that you are not the irritation.
Irritation and you are separated by a thin line,identify it.
walk far away from the irritation

   ⏩STOP FUELING⏪

Do not add fuel to the negative emotion.do not give energy to the emotion .if you give energy it increases in size instead withdraw the energy and throw enough light on it.
Immediately the emotion.descends
    ⏩ATTENTION ON SELF⏪

Keep attention on you through out the day.
Recheck your behaviour at the end of the day .catch the belief which made you irritated.change the wrong  believes.Put it to the work in the coming days.This will help you a lot in overcoming irritation and anger.